How to Manage a Personal Setback
Personal setbacks are a normal part of life, but when they occur it can seem like the walls around you have crumbled and what you have built is now in ruins. But if it feels like all is lost or you can’t see a way forward, remember the wisdom of the ages – this too will pass.
Understand it’s normal
The reality is that only 20% of people achieve their goals at the first time of asking, which means that a whopping 80% of us are failing at our aspirations. So of course we must accept that setbacks are going to occur and instead train ourselves in how to respond.
It is not a losing mindset you are cultivating just one that can cope with shocks to the system, it’s a mindset that makes those setbacks less shocking and more productive.
Accept the setback
In some instances, there may be an issue that others can see but which you don’t notice or don’t acknowledge. The denial of the issue that’s holding you back might be the setback itself, and only when you accept the obstacle in front of you will you be able to resolve the setback and move forward.
Often we don’t want to accept these setbacks for fear of looming bad or like a failure, but in reality, these setbacks are completely normal, everyone goes through them and will understand the journey you’re on. Honesty will make you a stronger person.
Be kind to yourself
Setback happens in life for many reasons. Sometimes they happen because of you and sometimes it’s the fault of someone else – we are all human and we all make mistakes. If you feel you are at fault for your setback it’s important to be kind to yourself.
Self-kindness is very important, especially if you’re in a difficult or problematic position that puts you on the wrong side of the law. You might feel like the whole world is against you but they’re not, contact Takakjian & Sitkoff, LLP you can understand where you’re coming from.
If you suffer a life setback other people will be involved, it might be a relationship setback, a work setback, or a legal setback like driving under the influence. Although other people might also be at fault, it’s important to accept responsibility for your role in events.
Accepting responsibility for your role in events is your first step on the path to healing and moving forward. When you don’t accept responsibility in this way you repress the issue which can then re-manifest as stress or illness.
Call for help if needed
Nobody wants to be in a state of suffering whether that is physical, mental, or emotional, but depending on the type of life setback you’re going through you might experience one or many of these conditions at the same time – that is a lot to deal with.
Luckily many people in the world have had similar experiences to you and are ready to help you out if you ask. Swallow your pride and ask for help if you think you need it, advice and guidance is a fast way to remove yourself from the immediacy of your suffering.