What Does It Mean To Have Good Self-Control?
One of the most important aspects to healthy living is being able to have a strong level of control over your behavior and actions. Of course, this is not something that always comes easily, but it is always possible as long as you are doing everything you can to work at it. In this post, we are going to take a bit of a deep dive into the matter of self-control, discussing why it’s important and what you can do to develop it in yourself. By the end, you will hopefully have a better understanding of the topic and some ideas for how to boost your own self-control considerably.
What Is Self-Control?
So what do we mean by self-control, anyway? Essentially, this is just a term relating to how capable you are of choosing your actions. That means that you have the ability not to simply give in to your automatic actions and bad habits, but to choose a better way. To be clear, nobody in the world is able to do this every single time. But you can learn to improve it to the point where you are doing it more often, and that is going to be really helpful in a lot of ways.
Identifying Your Triggers
In order to have better control over your actions, you need to figure out the triggers of your poor behaviors, so that you can hope to overcome them. This requires a certain level of mindfulness and self-awareness, but that is something that, again, everyone can develop as they need to. Then it’s just about replacing the bad behavior with a better one: swapping out that cigarette for a vape and some vape juice, or drinking water instead of that beer. The more you do it, the more those new actions will become automatic.
Relaxing Your Self-Control
On the other hand, it is also possible to have too much self-control, and this is not healthy either. As it turns out, ‘good’ self control means not having too much or too little. If you have too much self-control, you might feel that you are never able to relax, that you are distanced from others and that your personality is in some way rigid or fixed. You might also be responsible to a fault. Clearly, this is not healthy, in which case you might want to try and relax your self-control a little.
If you think you might need to do this, then there are some essential actions to take, such as learning to relax as best as you can, and to be okay with plans changing and things not always working out as you would want them to. Over time you’ll learn to relax more and more, and you should find that this makes a huge difference to how much you can have a say over your own self-control. That is the kind of balance that you are going to need here.
Those are some of the major things to be aware of as you try to have better self-control.