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7 Things That Steal Your Confidence

Self-confidence is trust in one’s ability, judgment, and qualities. When you’re self-confident, you know that you deliver the best and you are worthy of a good life, positive friendships, and rewards. However, not everyone lives a confident life, and some even have temporary setbacks of self-doubt and low self-esteem. Here are things that can steal your confidence

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Poor Body Image

Are you constantly telling yourself that you don’t look good enough, that you’re overweight, maybe too thin, or don’t have a perfect smile? These are things that can quickly lower your self-confidence and affect your social life. Unfortunately, sometimes there’s nothing much you can do about how you look.

The best way to handle this situation is to accept yourself and understand that no one is perfect and everyone has flaws. Then, embrace your weaknesses and make changes where you can. For instance, if you don’t like how your teeth look, probably, they’re stained, or you have missing teeth, talk to Callahan & Klein Dental for a dental makeover. 

The first step to regaining your confidence is acknowledging the problems and finding solutions. 

Also, exercise regularly, eat healthy foods, drink lots of water and take good care of your skin. Just the fact that you’re doing something to improve your image will significantly boost your confidence levels.

Negative Relationships

Negative thinkers drain and destroy your self-confidence. If your friends constantly criticize you, it’s better to be alone than surrounded by the wrong people. Toxic people also drain you of the ability to be aware of your positive or strong points. 

They make you feel that you’re inadequate or not worthy enough to have a better life or even better friends. Cut every toxic relationship and learn to say no to negative friendships or requests to protect your inner peace.


Overthinking magnifies problems, keeping you worried and reducing your confidence. Rather than overthink, seek solutions to issues or leave it to fate when it’s beyond you. 

Often, problems are not as bad as you think – overthinking magnifies and causes even more problems. For instance, you’ll not be able to concentrate on work responsibilities, eat, exercise, or even maintain healthy relationships. As long as you’re doing the best you can, don’t overthink because it leads to negativity.

Believing You’re Not Smart Enough

Believing that you’re not smart enough will block opportunities for growth forcing you to live an ordinary life. So to regain your confidence, keep on assuring yourself that you’re smart enough to succeed, you know a lot, and you’re willing to learn more.

If you still don’t feel smart enough, take up a new course. Also, look for ways to remind yourself that you’re clever by helping other people with your skills and expertise, requesting a job promotion, or even starting a new business.

As you look at the successes you’ve had, you’ll start believing in your ability to achieve even more.

Living in the Past

Everyone has made regrettable decisions and gone through painful seasons.  The best you can do is to leave the past in the past and try to live a happier, stronger, and more hopeful life. When you let the past dictate your present actions and happiness, you’ll be less fulfilled and confident.

Also, don’t count your failures but see them as learning opportunities that don’t make you less intelligent or unworthy. Finally, remember that everyone makes mistakes, and the only people who don’t fail are those who don’t try anything or play it too safe.

Comparing Yourself to Others

There will always be someone better than you but constantly comparing yourself to others drains your self-confidence. Instead, be true to who you are, understand your unique journey, ideas, actions, thoughts, and beliefs then strive to live the best life you can. Understand that everyone has different capabilities, some of them influenced by their upbringing.

Be Grateful

Gratitude enables you to focus on the positive side of your life. No matter how tough things are, there are still positive things to celebrate, and focusing on them makes life more manageable, building your self-confidence. Gratitude will enable you to focus on what you have instead of feeling sad about your failures. 

It also gives you the confidence to appreciate the people and things around you. As a result, you pay more attention to minor details, which you might overlook when ungrateful. To be more thankful, create a grateful journal where you write the things you are grateful for every day.

To keep your confidence levels high, don’t sabotage yourself with negative talk, fear, or feelings of unworthiness. Instead, speak more positive things, and soon enough, you’ll be confident enough to live a more fulfilling life.

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